I have a little trouble, as many people do, grasping the whole concept of “living in the now”. The idea of creating your own reality, as I understand it, is living in the moment in every aspect and in every moment. This concept also includes the notion that everything we experience and encounter is of our own creation, something we bring (create) into our existence for one reason or another – at any given time. Many writers and life-coaches that practice this will often discuss this thing I know as a Time Delay. Basically, there is a delay in time between the people and circumstances we want to bring into our lives because, if there were no delay, we would all be living in chaos every minute of the day. Think about it, if every desire (or undesired) came our way as soon as we thought of it – it would be pure chaos due to the swinging thoughts and emotions that drive many of these desires. It is also a great reality check of what we really want and what we don’t really want, as well as which areas of ourselves harbor incredible resistances with regard to things we desire.
Example: You want a dream job doing _______. You have a current job, you aren’t happy there, yet you are not making the effort or taking the necessary steps to find this dream job. Perhaps this is because you don’t actually think you deserve it or you don’t think you can actually obtain it. Without the belief that you CAN have this job, you will never get it. However, if you don’t demonstrate your belief in having it (aka giving notice at your current job, preparing for the new job) you still won’t obtain it. You must act and feel as if you already have it – and you will. Now, imagine that you lost your job moments after dreaming about this ideal position you really want. Are you ready for it? Probably not…
About two months ago, I started a new job with an insurance defense law firm, which is my favorite area of the law! After a few weeks in this position, I started to think “oh my god, I don’t want another desk job! This is not what I am meant to be doing!” I verbalized this a handful of times and my enthusiasm for the job quickly dwindled. Two weeks into the position, I was let go for no apparent reason other than it just “wasn’t a good fit”. When I left work, I was bawling and was in total disbelief. I was the only provider for my two girls, the only one who paid the rent, and my source of income had just vanished. I was scheduled to go pick up my brand new car that afternoon after work and I was totally mortified on all ends. After about two hours of telling myself, “this is what you asked for, you want to work for yourself full time and you got it”, I felt collective and grateful for the opportunity to leave this job without having to quit. I even went to my appointment with the car dealer that afternoon and discovered that the car I was about to buy wasn’t even what I *really* wanted.
I didn’t understand the meaning and importance of a time delay until this experience. I did, however, walk away with knowing two important things. 1: I rock at manifesting what I want. 2: If I am prepared to receive what I truly want, I will be ready and waiting, not caught off-guard. As of today, I am home full time and working for myself. Most importantly, when I meet new people, I am happy when they ask me what I do for a living and I can respond “I work for myself!”